Cool 7 Reasons Dating Later In Life Makes You MAD And How To Deal

(Sigh!) I can't believe I have to find love all over again.

The idea of dating over 50 can come as a shock. You aresingleand in

midlife, which was probably not part of your life plan. But "things"

happen. Sometimes it's divorce, the passing of a spouse, or time

creeping up until you realize you nevermarriedand might not get the

chance.

One thing I have noticed as adatingcoach for women is how many single

gals in their 50's seemangryabout looking forlove. A variety of

reasons create this anger and some despair, as well. Most women never

thought they'd be single and dating over 50 which is certainly

understandable. Surprisingly, some women don't even realize they are

mad about this, but it sure gets in the way of finding love.

Let me share seven of the most common reasons for feeling miffed about

being over 50 and single AND what you can do about it:

1. I Wasted My Precious Youth on the Wrong Man.Maybe you left your

husband or he left you. Either way, your long-term marriage ended and

you look back fuming at all the time you foolishly invested. It feels

like you wasted the best years of your life on the wrong man. He

didn't appreciate you or treat you right. Who would have thought you'd

be single now?

What I tell my clients is that your years in a relationship made you

the woman you are today. So itwasn'twasted. You learned and there were

good times so it wasn't all a waste by any means. The good news is you

actually have a lot of single company as dating over 50 is the fastest

growing group online or anywhere. So chin up girlfriend, you do have

options!

2. I Can't Attract a Man When I'm Past My Prime.You feel too old to

find love again or you think youhadlove and now that part of your life

is over. The truth is people can find love at any age from 14 to 90.

Look at it this way, dating over 50 is somewhere in the middle age

range right? It's never too late for love and you are NOT too old.

There is so much you have to offer and your beauty shines through a

few laugh lines … so stop worrying. The right man will be lucky to

find you.

3. It's Easier for Men Who Are Dating Over 50.You think men have an

easier time dating in midlife? They go after younger women and online

that's what "all" men want. You're angry because men seem to skate by

you when it comes to love and they hold all the power.

Yet, trust me, when men are unreasonable about women they want to

date, they end up alone. Don't get upset about these men—just look for

men who are open to women your age and go meet them. There are plenty

of great guys who want to date a woman like you.

4. You No Longer Trust Men.If you left your relationship because your

man cheated, lied or both, that makes it difficult to trust men again.

I totally understand. Now here's another way to look at this

situation: while this might be hard to believe, ALL MEN ARENOTTHE

SAME. Each guy is a unique individual and shouldn't be lumped in with

a few bad apples. It's time to open your heart and mind to the

possibility that there is a good man out there for you. Otherwise, as

you repeat this sad and untrue mantra, you will keep yourself single.

5. You Resent Modern Dating.What happened to how dating once was and

that old-fashioned kind of love? You met a man, he showed interest,

you dated for a while, things got serious and you decided to marry. My

clients are usually surprised when I explain that dating

actuallyhasn'tchanged much. While the media, movies and maverick

dating experts suggest everything is different, this is absolutely NOT

true. Traditional dating still works, but it's up to you to stick to

that path, which is what I recommend to all my dating coaching

clients.

6. You Have No Idea Where to Start.It's been so many years since you

dated, you have no idea how to get started again. I get that. However,

nowadays there is SO much information about finding love and dating

over 50 you can certainly learn what works. Read books, take a class,

work with a dating coach, or visit websites like this one. Everything

you need to know is availableifyou just look for it. You can try

online dating, go to a MeetUp.com group, find singles dances or speed

dating, or get fixed up by people you know. Get busy!

7. Men Are Villians, So You Don't Have Any Interest.Okay, you've been

hurt and feel disgusted by the male gender. And now you've chosen not

to get involved again. That is totally your choice. No one says you

need a relationship. You can have a fabulous, rich life without a man.

However, if underneath it all, you wish you had a man to share your

life with, then my dating advice is not to hide behind your disdain

for men. Take time to heal (and get help if needed). Then, put some

effort into dating over 50 so you can find love again.

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